How to Make Your Wedding Ceremony Personal (Without Making It Cringey)

You've probably spent hours thinking about your wedding day. The venue, the outfits, the flowers, the music. But what about the actual ceremony?

For some couples, the idea of standing in front of everyone they know while someone reads a long, sentimental account of their relationship sounds like their worst nightmare. Others love the idea of a ceremony filled with personal stories, meaningful moments and a few laughs along the way. And plenty fall somewhere in between.

The good news? A personalised ceremony doesn't have to be overly sentimental, embarrassingly intimate or full of wedding clichés.

It simply means creating a ceremony that feels like you.

As a Christchurch marriage celebrant, one of my favourite parts of working with couples is getting to know them, hearing their story and discovering the little details that make their relationship unique. Those details help me create a ceremony that feels personal to the couple, rather than a script that could belong to anyone.

So, how do you make your wedding ceremony personal without making yourselves cringe? Here are a few things worth thinking about:

1. Tell your story, but don't tell your entire life story

Every couple has a story, but your guests don't need a detailed account of every date, holiday, house move and relationship milestone since you first met.

The most engaging stories focus on the moments that tell people something about you as a couple. How you met, what first attracted you to each other, how your relationship developed and what makes you work so well together.

Perhaps one of you knew fairly quickly that this was something special, while the other took a little more convincing. Maybe your first date was a little awkward, but you went back for a second anyway. Or perhaps it was a friendship that gradually turned into something more.

It's not about ticking off every milestone. It's about finding the details that bring your relationship to life.

When I'm writing a couple's story, I'm interested in more than the big milestones. I want to hear about the first impressions that turned out to be completely wrong, the habits that drive each other mad (but wouldn't change for the world), the shared obsessions and the little things you do for one another that might otherwise go unnoticed.

Sometimes it's a story you've told a hundred times. Other times, it's a detail that comes out during our conversations and gives me a completely different insight into your relationship.

And you don't have to share everything. A personalised ceremony should never feel like an opportunity to reveal private information or tell stories you'd rather keep between yourselves. You get to decide what's included and what stays just between the two of you.

The aim is to choose the details that help your guests understand who you are together, without turning your relationship into a public interview.

2. Let your personalities shine through (and don't force the romance)

A personalised ceremony shouldn't sound as though it could belong to any couple. It should reflect the people standing at the front.

If you're adventurous, perhaps your story includes the trips you've taken together and the adventures still on your list. If you're homebodies who are happiest with a takeaway and a night on the couch, there's no need to pretend otherwise. And if one of you plans everything down to the last detail while the other is happy to see what happens, that dynamic might be worth a mention too.

These details help guests recognise your relationship, rather than simply hearing a list of facts about your lives.

The same applies to the overall tone of your ceremony.

Some couples love heartfelt declarations and aren't afraid to get a little emotional. Others prefer something relaxed and conversational, with a few laughs along the way. Plenty want a mixture: romantic where it matters, funny when it feels natural, but never so sentimental that they're wishing the ground would swallow them up.

None of these approaches is better than the others.

You don't need to become a more romantic, more entertaining or more publicly affectionate version of yourselves just because you're getting married. Your ceremony should feel like a natural extension of your relationship, not a performance.

And that starts with being honest about what feels comfortable for you both.

3. Use humour naturally, not because you think you should

A wedding ceremony can be romantic without being serious from beginning to end. A little humour can help everyone relax, give guests a glimpse of your personalities and make the occasion feel like a celebration.

But there's a difference between a genuinely funny moment and a joke that's been wedged into the script because someone decided every wedding needs a laugh.

You don't need to be a particularly funny couple, and you certainly don't need a comedian writing your ceremony.

Sometimes the humour comes from an amusing first impression, a familiar habit or the affectionate way you describe each other. It might be something your friends have teased you about for years or a small detail that makes everyone who knows you smile.

When these moments are woven naturally into your story, they help bring your personalities to life. Your guests aren't simply listening to someone describe your relationship; they're getting a glimpse of what makes it work.

Of course, humour isn't everyone's thing, and that's absolutely fine. A ceremony doesn't need jokes to be engaging, just as it doesn't need tears to be meaningful.

The important thing is getting the balance right for you. A few well-placed laughs can sit beautifully alongside the more heartfelt moments, without turning your ceremony into a comedy show.

4. Keep the promises meaningful, not theatrical

Your vows are an opportunity to express what your commitment means to you, but that doesn't mean you need to write something that sounds like a romantic novel.

Some couples love writing their own vows. Others prefer a more traditional exchange of promises. Either can work beautifully.

If you're writing your own, think about what you genuinely want to promise each other for the life you're building together. That might mean supporting each other's ambitions, making time for the things you enjoy together, being a steady presence when life gets difficult or continuing to find reasons to laugh when things don't go to plan.

You can be romantic without being overly sentimental. You can be funny without making light of the commitment you're making.

And if the thought of writing your own vows leaves you staring at a blank page wondering where on earth to start, don't panic! I've put together a vow-writing guide to help you find the words, with ideas and prompts to get you thinking about what you really want to say.

You also don't need to write your own vows just because it's popular. There are other ways to make your ceremony meaningful, and the important thing is that the words you exchange feel right for you both.

5. Choose a celebrant who understands your style

You can have the most beautiful venue, the perfect music and a carefully considered wedding day, but the person delivering your ceremony still makes a difference.

Your celebrant does more than guide you through the formalities. They help set the tone, bring your story to life and create an experience that feels right for you and your guests.

When I work with couples, one of the things I ask early on is what they'd like their ceremony to feel like. Romantic and heartfelt? Relaxed and conversational? Fun and playful? Elegant and timeless? Or perhaps a mix of styles, with a little romance, a few laughs and nothing too over the top.

I ask because there's no single way a wedding ceremony should sound.

I take the time to get to know each couple, hear their story and understand what matters to them. Their personalities, their preferences and the details they share all help shape the finished script, from the way I tell their story to the overall tone of the ceremony.

A couple who want a romantic, heartfelt ceremony will have a very different experience from a couple who want something relaxed, conversational and full of personality. Both can be equally meaningful; they simply call for a different approach.

It's why no two scripts I write are the same. I'm not taking a standard ceremony and swapping in your names. I'm creating something around your relationship, the things that matter to you and the kind of experience you want to share with your guests.

When you're choosing a celebrant, read their website, explore examples of their work and, if possible, watch videos of them conducting ceremonies. Look for someone whose style feels right for you and who takes the time to understand what you're looking for.

You should feel comfortable being yourselves and confident that your story will be told in a way that feels genuine.

So, what actually makes a wedding ceremony personal?

It isn't necessarily writing your own vows, including a funny story or adding an unusual ritual.

It's the combination of thoughtful details, genuine words and a ceremony that reflects the two people standing at the front.

For some couples, that might mean a romantic story, heartfelt promises and a few happy tears. For others, it might be a relaxed ceremony with plenty of laughter and promises that reflect the life they've built together. And for many, it's a mixture of all those things.

There isn't a formula you need to follow, and you don't have to turn your relationship into a performance for your guests.

The aim is to create a ceremony that feels comfortable, meaningful and unmistakably yours. One that gives your guests a glimpse of your relationship, celebrates the commitment you're making and leaves you feeling that the words and moments genuinely reflected who you are.

Looking for a Christchurch marriage celebrant?

I'm Ollie, a Christchurch marriage celebrant working with couples across Christchurch and Canterbury. I love getting to know the people behind the wedding, hearing how their relationship began and discovering those little details that make their story their own.

My approach is to create ceremonies that feel personal, engaging and true to the couple. That might mean a little romance, a little humour, some meaningful promises or simply finding the right words to tell your story.

If you're looking for a celebrant who will take the time to get to know you and create a ceremony that feels like you, I'd love to hear what you're planning.

You can explore my ceremony options or get in touch to tell me a little about your plans.

Image: Brad Crocker Photography
https://bradcrockerphotography.mypixieset.com/
Location: Larcomb Vineyard

When Should You Book a Wedding Celebrant in New Zealand?

You've got the ring, you've started talking dates, and perhaps you've fallen down a Pinterest rabbit hole or two. But have you thought about booking your celebrant yet?

If you're wondering how far in advance you need to book a marriage celebrant, the answer is that it really depends. Some couples book me more than a year ahead, others get in touch a few months out, and occasionally I'll hear from a couple who've decided they'd quite like to get married in the next few weeks. No judgement here!

As a Christchurch marriage celebrant, I work with couples planning all sorts of ceremonies, from personalised weddings filled with family, friends and stories, to simple registry-style ceremonies for those who want to make things official without a big wedding. The amount of planning involved can look quite different for each, so the best time to book really depends on what you're hoping to do.

You don't need a photographer, a florist, a fancy venue or even a big guest list to get married, But in New Zealand, you legally require a registered marriage celebrant (and two witnesses!). And if you've found a celebrant whose style you love and who feels like the right fit, I'd recommend getting in touch sooner rather than later. Here's why:

How far in advance should you book a wedding celebrant?

For a traditional wedding, I'd generally recommend starting your search around six to eighteen months before your wedding date. If you're planning a Saturday wedding during the busy summer season, or you've got your heart set on a particular celebrant, getting in touch earlier is a good idea.

Spring and summer are popular times to get married around Christchurch and Canterbury, especially for outdoor ceremonies. Saturdays can book up quickly, so it's worth getting your celebrant sorted early if you're planning a wedding during these months.

But here's the thing: you don't necessarily need a year to organise a wedding.

I've had couples book with me just a few months before their wedding, while others get in touch much closer to the date. If I have availability, I'm always happy to explore what's possible. You don't need to have everything planned months in advance to get the ball rolling.

My advice? Once you've settled on a date, get in touch. Even if your wedding is a little way off, or coming up sooner than you'd planned, it's always worth asking. I'd hate for you to miss out on a celebrant who feels like the right fit for you, only to find yourself stuck with someone who thinks love is like a butterfly is peak wedding poetry!

What if you want to get married in the next few weeks?

First of all, don't assume you've left it too late!

Not every couple wants a big wedding with a lengthy planning process. Some simply want to make things official, perhaps with a couple of witnesses or a small group of their favourite people, and then celebrate in their own way.

This is where my registry-style ceremony can be a lovely option.

I hear from couples who have decided they'd rather keep things simple, without the expense, expectations or months of organising that can come with a larger wedding. Sometimes they've been together for years and have simply decided the time feels right. Other times, they have a particular reason for wanting to get married sooner rather than later.
Whatever has brought you to that decision, there's no right or wrong way to do it.

If you're hoping to get married in the next few weeks, do get in touch with me! If you have a little flexibility around your date and location, I'm happy to see what I can make work.

You'll still need to allow enough time for the legal paperwork, and availability will depend on existing bookings and commitments. But if you're keen to make it happen, don't assume it's too late to get in touch. You might be closer to saying "I do" than you think!

Does the time of year make a difference?

Absolutely! If you're dreaming of a Saturday wedding in the middle of summer, you're probably not the only one!

November through March is a popular time to get married in Christchurch and Canterbury. The days are longer, the weather is (hopefully!) on your side, and outdoor ceremonies are a lovely option. It's also when celebrants' diaries can start filling up, particularly for those sought-after Friday and Saturday dates.

But don't rule out winter! There can be something really special about a winter wedding, whether it's a cosy indoor ceremony, a beautiful fireplace, or simply bringing everyone together without worrying about the summer heat. And with fewer couples choosing the cooler months, you may find you have more flexibility when it comes to dates and availability.

If you've got your heart set on a particular date, I'd suggest getting in touch early rather than crossing your fingers and hoping for the best.

The good news? If you're planning a weekday wedding, are flexible with your date, or are keeping things small and simple, you may have more options. Not every wedding needs months of planning, a Saturday booking and a spreadsheet that rivals a small business!

Ultimately, it comes down to the kind of wedding you want and how flexible you can be. And if you're not sure what's possible, just ask. I'm always happy to have a chat about your plans.

What do you need before booking a celebrant?

Good news: you don't need to have your entire wedding planned before you get in touch with a celebrant. You don't even need a Pinterest board full of ideas (although if you have one, I'm happy to hear about it!).

A few basics are helpful when you enquire with me:

• Your date: Even if it's not set in stone, let me know what you're thinking.

• Your location: Have you found the perfect spot, or are you still weighing up your options?

• Your ceremony style: Are you imagining something personal, with your story woven through it, or a short and simple ceremony to make things official?

• Your guest list: An approximate number is absolutely fine.

That's enough to get the conversation started. We can talk through what you have in mind, and I'll help you work out which ceremony option might suit you best. There's no need to have all the answers before you enquire.

If you'd like to go ahead, I'll talk you through the booking process. A deposit is required to secure your date, so keep in mind that an enquiry alone doesn't reserve your spot in my diary.

If you've found a celebrant whose style you love, it's worth making sure you understand their booking process and what you need to do to lock everything in. That way, you can tick one more thing off the wedding to-do list and get on with the fun stuff!

Do you need to have your whole wedding planned before booking a celebrant?

Absolutely not!
You can book your celebrant before you've chosen your flowers, found the perfect outfit or decided whether you're having a three-course dinner or fish and chips on the beach. You certainly don't need every last detail figured out before you start making enquiries.

In fact, getting your celebrant sorted early gives you more time to think about the part of the day where you actually get married, rather than leaving it until the end of your to-do list (remember - you legally need a marriage celebrant to get married!)

Some couples want a ceremony full of personal stories, meaningful moments and promises they've carefully thought about. Others want to keep things relaxed and uncomplicated, with a handful of their favourite people there to witness the occasion. Neither needs to be a bigger production than it has to be.

There's no wedding rulebook you need to follow, and your day doesn't have to look like anyone else's. My job is to help you create a ceremony that feels right for you, whether that's a little more involved or beautifully simple.

So, if you've got a date in mind and you're starting to picture how you'd like to get married, let’s have a chat!

Looking for a marriage celebrant in Christchurch?

Whether you're planning a wedding next summer, hoping to get married in a few months or wondering if you can organise something in the next few weeks, I'd love to hear what you have in mind.

Your wedding ceremony doesn't need to look or sound like anyone else's. Maybe you want to share your story, include the little details that make you you, and have your guests leave feeling like they've learnt something about your relationship. Or perhaps you'd rather keep things low-key, with just a handful of your favourite people there to witness the I do's. And if you're working to a tight timeframe, please don't assume I've already filled my diary. Get in touch and let's see what's possible.

You can take a look at my ceremony options or get in touch here to tell me a little about your plans.

You don't need a perfectly organised wedding or a list of decisions already made. Just a date (or a few possibilities), an idea of what you're after, and a willingness to start the conversation. I'll take it from there!

Image: Brad Crocker Photography
https://bradcrockerphotography.mypixieset.com/
Location: Larcomb Vineyard

Why I'll Always Have a Soft Spot for a Small, Intimate Wedding

After standing beside dozens of couples as they say "I do", one thing has become very clear …

There’s no such thing as the perfect wedding.

Some couples dream of a marquee packed with family and friends, a dance floor that never empties, and a celebration that lasts well into the night. Others picture something much quieter. Just the two of them, or perhaps a small group of their favourite people, somewhere beautiful.

I love both!

But there is something incredibly special about a small, intimate wedding.

It's about the marriage, not managing the guest list

Planning a wedding can sometimes feel like a juggling act.
Who sits where?
Do we invite second cousins?
Will Great Aunt Gertrude be offended if she's not invited … even though you haven't seen her since you were ten?

With a smaller wedding, so much of that pressure simply disappears.

Instead of trying to keep everyone else happy, you get to focus on the two people who matter most - yourselves.

You actually get to enjoy the day

One thing I hear time and time again is: "The day just went so fast."

With a smaller wedding, there's often a little more breathing room. You have time to take in your surroundings, enjoy a quiet moment together after the ceremony, chat with every guest and actually remember how the day felt. It becomes less about rushing from one thing to the next and more about simply being present.

Your wedding can look however you want it to

One of my favourite things about intimate weddings is that couples feel more confident doing things their own way.
Maybe that means getting married at sunrise. Maybe it's sharing fish and chips on the beach afterwards.
Maybe it's a long lunch with twelve people instead of a reception for one hundred.
Or maybe it's just the two of you.

There really aren't any rules.

A hidden gem in Christchurch

One venue that perfectly captures this style of wedding is The Secret Garden.

Tucked away in Christchurch, it feels like one of those places you've stumbled across by accident. Surrounded by beautiful gardens and with a gorgeous indoor space overlooking the water (perfect for those classic Canterbury four-seasons-in-one-day moments!), it's relaxed, elegant and beautifully considered.

I’m delighted to be a celebrant with NZ Elopement Co, who specialise in small, heartfelt elopements and small weddings - planned just for you.

These images captured at The Secret Garden reflect the essence of those experiences. All-inclusive, thoughtfully curated, everything is taken care of - from venue and styling through to photography, cake, hair and makeup, and catering. Every detail has been considered, and is ready for you to shape a day that feels personal and entirely your own.

What I really love about their approach is that they've taken the guesswork out of planning an elopement. They've carefully brought together a collection of trusted local wedding vendors and a stunning venue, allowing couples to simply choose the experience that feels right for them.

It was such a pleasure working alongside Carmen Peter Photography, Selina Nunn Hair & Makeup, Graces Brides,Rembrandt, Austen & Blake, The Cake Eating Co, and fellow celebrant Jane Godfrey to bring the day to life.

If you're dreaming of a small wedding or elopement, I'd absolutely encourage you to have a look at what NZ Elopement Co has created. And if you'd like me to be standing there with you as your celebrant, I'd be honoured to help tell your story.

There really is no right way to get married

Whether your ceremony is in front of 150 guests or just a handful of your favourite people, what matters is that it feels like you.
As a celebrant, that's always my goal: To create a ceremony that's warm, relaxed and personal. One where you can forget about everyone watching, take a breath, look at each other and simply enjoy the moment.

If you're dreaming of a small wedding or elopement in Christchurch or Canterbury, I'd love to hear what you're planning.
Let's have a coffee (or a wine!) and chat about creating a ceremony that's completely your own.

Image: Carmen Peters Photography
https://laughterintherain.co.nz/
Location: The Secret Garden, Christchurch

Questions to Ask Your Wedding Celebrant Before You Book

When you start planning a wedding, you quickly realise there are a lot of decisions to make. Venues, photographers, food, flowers … and then at some point you realise you also need someone to actually marry you!

That’s usually when the celebrant search begins.

And if you’ve opened a few celebrant websites already, you’ll notice something quite quickly - most of us sound fairly similar on paper. Which is why knowing what to actually ask can make things a lot easier.

Start with how they work

This is probably the simplest place to begin.

You don’t need a long list of technical questions. It’s more about getting a sense of how they approach ceremonies, and whether that lines up with what you’re picturing.
Some celebrants keep things very structured and traditional. Some are more relaxed and flexible. Some lean into storytelling and personality, others keep things quite short and simple.

I sit very much in the “relaxed, personal, let’s make this feel like you” space. Every couple is different, so the ceremony should be too.

There’s no right or wrong style, but it does help to know what you’re stepping into.

Ask what the ceremony will actually feel like

This is the bit that really matters, even if it’s not always the first thing people think to ask.
Every celebrant can legally marry you. The difference is how it actually feels when you’re standing there.
Some ceremonies feel very formal and structured. Others feel light, emotional, funny in parts, or a mix of everything.

When I talk to couples, I usually find they already have a sense of how they want it to feel - they just don’t always have the words for it yet. Part of my job is helping shape that into something real.

And just as importantly, it’s about listening properly to what matters to you. If there are certain elements you want included, I’ll always do my best to make it happen and find a way to weave it into the ceremony so it still feels natural and true to the moment.

That might be something light and simple, or it might be something more meaningful - like acknowledging someone important who can’t be there, or recognising a loved one who has passed. Those moments are never an afterthought. They’re handled gently and included in a way that feels right for you and your day.

So it’s worth asking not just what happens, but how they create the feeling of the ceremony, and how flexible they are in shaping it around you.

Find out what happens before the wedding day

There’s a lot more that happens before the ceremony than most people expect.

From my side, I spend time getting to know you properly - your story, what matters to you, what you want the ceremony to feel like, and anything you absolutely don’t want included.
I then build your ceremony from there, rather than working from a template.

All of my planning is done through My Celebrant App, which keeps everything in one place. Instead of scattered emails or lost notes, you’ve got your ceremony details, timelines, vows, and a simple chat function so everything stays organised and easy to follow.

It keeps the whole process calm and straightforward, which is exactly how wedding planning should feel!

Ask how they handle nerves and the unexpected

Weddings are rarely perfectly predictable (that would be too much to ask for!)

The wind picks up. Someone misplaces something. Timings change. People get emotional in ways they didn’t expect.
A good celebrant doesn’t just deliver a script - they hold the space.

For me, that usually means quietly adjusting as we go, keeping things calm, and making sure you don’t feel like you’re being “performed at” or rushed through your own ceremony.

Most couples remember how the ceremony felt far more than whether everything went exactly to plan.

See how they talk about your story

This is a really good one to pay attention to.

When a celebrant talks about your ceremony, do they sound interested in you as a couple? Or does it feel like they’re working from the same structure every time?

Your story doesn’t need to be dramatic or complicated. It just needs to be yours.
The way a celebrant listens at the beginning usually tells you a lot about how your ceremony will feel later.

A practical one - what’s included

It’s absolutely fine to ask this one directly.

Most celebrants will include ceremony writing, meetings beforehand, legal paperwork, and running the ceremony on the day - but the way that’s delivered can vary quite a bit.

For me, I tend to keep things quite hands-on in the lead-up so you’re not left guessing what’s happening or what comes next.

That also includes being clear about the practical side of things, like travel or mileage if your ceremony is outside of Christchurch. I’ll always be upfront about that so there are no surprises later on.
I also work closely with couples on their ceremony script and we’ll keep refining it together until it feels exactly right. Nothing is final until you’re happy with it!

I feel it’s less about comparing pricing and more about understanding how supported you’ll feel throughout the process.

Final Thoughts

Choosing a celebrant isn’t just about ticking a box. It’s about finding someone you feel comfortable with, because you’ll be standing in front of them on one of the biggest days of your life.

If it feels easy to talk to them, if you like how they approach ceremonies, and if you can picture them standing with you on the day, you’re probably on the right track.

And if you’re not sure, I’m always happy to meet for a coffee (or a wine) and have a chat to see if we’re a good fit.

Image: Kiwi Eyes Photography
https://www.kiwieyes.co.nz/
Location: Private Residence, North Canterbury

How Much Does a Wedding Celebrant Cost in Christchurch?

This is one of the first questions couples tend to ask when they start planning their wedding, usually right after the excitement of getting engaged settles and the spreadsheet appears.
And the answer is: it varies quite a bit.

There isn’t one set price for celebrants in Christchurch, because what you’re paying for isn’t just the ceremony on the day. It’s everything that leads up to it as well.

So what does it usually cost?

Most wedding celebrants in Christchurch and across New Zealand sit somewhere between around $500 and $1,200+, although there are always exceptions at both ends of that range.

At the lower end, you’re usually looking at very simple, short legal-style ceremonies with minimal preparation. At the higher end, it tends to reflect more time spent getting to know you, writing a fully personalised ceremony, and being involved throughout the planning process.

Neither is right or wrong. It just depends on what you’re wanting your ceremony to feel like.

What are you actually paying for?

One of the biggest surprises for couples is how much of the work happens before the wedding day itself.

A celebrant fee typically covers the time spent getting to know you both, writing your ceremony so it actually reflects your story, shaping the flow of the day, and helping with things like vows or readings if you want a bit of guidance. There’s also the legal side of things, the paperwork afterwards, and of course being there on the day to deliver the ceremony and keep everything running smoothly.

The ceremony itself might only be about 30 minutes, but the preparation behind it is where most of the work sits.

My approach to pricing

I aim to keep my ceremonies affordable and reasonable, without overcomplicating things or making the process feel harder than it needs to be.

Weddings are already a big investment, and I’m very conscious of keeping my services at a level that feels accessible while still giving couples something personal and relaxed.

For me, it’s never about creating something overly formal or over-produced. It’s about making sure the ceremony feels like you both, without unnecessary pressure attached to it.

How I stay organised behind the scenes

All of my ceremony planning is run through My Celebrant App, which is an online CRM system that keeps everything in one place.

It means instead of endless emails or scattered notes, everything from your ceremony details to vows and timelines sits neatly in one space. It keeps things simple for couples and means the whole process feels a lot more relaxed and organised from start to finish. There’s also a really handy to-do list so you can see exactly what’s needed and when, plus a chat function so we can easily stay in touch without things getting lost in long email threads.

Why prices vary so much

No two celebrants work in exactly the same way, which is really why pricing varies.

Some celebrants focus on short and simple legal ceremonies, while others (myself included) spend more time building a ceremony that feels personal, story-driven, and reflective of the couple. The more time and detail that goes into that process, the more that’s reflected in cost.

Experience also plays a part, as does demand and the time of year.

Looking ahead to future seasons

It’s also worth noting that celebrant pricing does tend to shift slightly over time. Like most wedding suppliers, costs are reviewed each season to reflect demand, time involved, and general industry changes.

If you’re planning well ahead, especially for peak wedding season, it’s always a good idea to check current pricing for that year rather than assuming it will stay exactly the same (Please note - My pricing does vary year to year).

Is a more expensive celebrant better?

Not necessarily.

It really comes down to what you want your ceremony to feel like. Some couples want something simple, legal and straightforward, and that suits them perfectly. Others want a ceremony that feels more tailored, personal and woven into their story.

The most important thing is finding someone you feel comfortable with and whose style fits you. That tends to matter far more than price alone.

Final Thoughts

When couples look back on their wedding, they rarely talk about what each part cost.

They talk about how it felt, whether it felt like them, and whether they were actually present in it. So while budget is absolutely important (and always part of the conversation), it’s also worth thinking about the kind of experience you want your ceremony to be.

I’m always happy to meet for a coffee (or a wine) and have a chat to see if I’m your kind of celebrant!

Image: Martin Setunsky Photography
https://www.msmphotography.org/
Location: Trott’s Garden, Ashburton

Planning an Outdoor Wedding Ceremony? Here's What to Think About

There is something pretty special about an outdoor wedding ceremony.
Whether it's overlooking the ocean, nestled amongst the hills, surrounded by vineyards, or simply held in a beautiful garden, outdoor ceremonies can create a relaxed atmosphere and provide a stunning backdrop for your vows.

That said … Mother Nature doesn't always read the run sheet!

Over the years, I've seen outdoor ceremonies in blazing sunshine, sideways wind, unexpected rain showers, and everything in between. The good news? A little planning goes a long way.

Think About the Sun

Most couples think about rain, but sunshine can be just as challenging.
If guests are sitting in direct sunlight for 20 - 30 minutes, it can quickly become uncomfortable. Consider providing sunscreen, paper parasols, or a shaded area before the ceremony begins.

It's also worth thinking about the position of the sun. Nobody wants to spend their ceremony squinting into bright light, and your photographer will thank you too.

Prepare for the Wind

Let's be honest - this is New Zealand!
Even on a beautiful day, wind can appear out of nowhere.

Make sure any ceremony décor is weighted or secured, and have a plan for paperwork, vows, and readings. If you're wearing a veil, think about how it might behave in a strong breeze. The same goes for hairstyles that rely heavily on staying perfectly in place.

Some of my favourite wedding photos have involved a little wind, but it's much nicer when everyone is prepared for it.
(And I make sure my hair is always tied up in wind - I struggle with wind, hair, mic and book!)

Keep Guests Comfortable

Your guests will remember how your ceremony felt.
If you're planning a summer wedding, think about shade, water stations, and ways for guests to stay cool.

For autumn and winter weddings, blankets, outdoor heaters, or even hot water bottles can make a huge difference.

Also consider your seating. Elderly guests, pregnant guests, and anyone with mobility concerns will appreciate comfortable seating and easy access.

Consider the Noise Around You

That secluded outdoor location may not be quite as quiet as it seems.
Nearby roads, farm machinery, aeroplanes, helicopters, livestock, or even enthusiastic birds can all make an appearance during your vows.

Most of the time these moments simply become part of the story, but it's worth visiting your venue at a similar time of day beforehand to get a sense of what to expect.

Have Refreshments Available

If guests have travelled a while to get to your ceremony, they'll appreciate having access to water, particularly during warmer months.

A simple water station can make a big difference and helps keep everyone comfortable while waiting for the celebrations to begin.

Have a Wet Weather Plan You Actually Like

One of the best pieces of advice I can give any couple is this:

Don't make your wet weather plan an afterthought.
If rain forces you indoors, you still want to feel excited about the space you're getting married in.

Check whether your venue has an indoor option, covered area, or marquee available. Knowing you have a solid backup plan removes a huge amount of stress leading up to the day.

Let Your Guests Know What to Expect

If your ceremony is on grass, a beach, a farm, or a hillside, tell people.

A quick note on your invitations or wedding website can help guests choose appropriate footwear, bring an extra layer, or prepare for the conditions.
A little information beforehand can save a lot of uncomfortable wobbling in high heels later.

A Few Favourite Canterbury Outdoor Wedding Venues

Canterbury is spoiled for choice when it comes to outdoor wedding venues. From coastal views and rolling hills to gardens and vineyards, there’s no shortage of beautiful places to say “I do”.

The photo above was taken at Mt Vernon Lodge overlooking Akaroa. On a clear summer’s day, the views across the harbour are pretty hard to beat. It’s one of those venues that feels relaxed but still incredibly special, with a stunning outdoor ceremony space and plenty of room for guests to settle in and enjoy the moment. As a lodge, it also has on-site accommodation, which makes it really easy for guests to stay the weekend, turn it into a proper celebration, and not worry about driving anywhere afterwards.

I’ve also had the privilege of officiating ceremonies at some incredible Canterbury locations including vineyard settings like Waipuna Estate, The Vines Club and Melton Estate, coastal ceremonies around Akaroa and Governors Bay like Ohinetahi House and Garden, French Farm and The Hilltop, garden weddings at Mona Vale and Trott’s Garden, and countryside celebrations at places like Terrace Downs and Bangor Farm, and rural family properties that are full of personal meaning.

Each location brings something different. Vineyards feel warm and celebratory, coastal spots feel open and grounded, and gardens often have that timeless, romantic feel. One of my favourite parts of the job is seeing couples choose a place that genuinely reflects them, rather than just following trends.

If you’re still venue hunting, don’t feel limited to traditional wedding spaces. Some of the most memorable ceremonies I’ve been part of have taken place in backyards, paddocks, orchards, and family properties that hold a story all of their own.

Final Thoughts

Outdoor ceremonies are some of my absolute favourites. There is something wonderfully relaxed about being surrounded by fresh air, beautiful scenery, and the people you love most.

With a bit of planning and a good backup option, you can spend less time worrying about the weather and more time enjoying the moment.

And if the wind picks up, the sun shines a little brighter than expected, or a sheep decides to make an appearance halfway through your vows? Those are often the moments you'll remember most.

Things I Wish Every Couple Knew Before Their Wedding

After standing at the front of a lot of weddings across Canterbury (and seeing everything from perfect blue-sky vineyard days to sideways wind that has everyone questioning their life choices), there are a few things I’ve noticed tend to come up again and again.

Not the obvious planning stuff like seating charts or whether you’ve chosen the right napkin colour. The things that actually shape how the day feels when you’re in it.

So consider this a bit of real talk from someone who gets a front-row seat to it all.

Nobody notices the tiny things you’re stressing about

I promise you this one is true.

The napkin colour. The exact placement of a chair. Whether the timing is five minutes off. Whether your hair is doing exactly what it did in the trial. You notice all of it because you’ve been living and breathing the details for months, but you’re guests don’t.

They’re not sitting there thinking, “That wasn’t how it was meant to go.” They’re just watching two people they care about get married, probably thinking about how nice it is to actually be at a wedding together.

You are the centre of the day. Everything else is just background detail.

Something will change on the day (it just will)

I’ve honestly never seen a wedding go exactly to script. Not once.

In Canterbury especially, the weather likes to keep things interesting. I’ve had ceremonies start in sunshine and finish with wind that feels like it’s arrived with opinions (or some that start in hail and turn out to be the most beautiful day!) I’ve seen marquees become the hero of the day, and I’ve seen couples completely ditch the plan and end up somewhere even better.

The couples who seem to enjoy it the most aren’t the ones chasing perfect conditions. They’re the ones who roll with it and don’t let small changes take over the day.

The ceremony matters more than people expect

This is the part I’m probably a bit biased about …

But the ceremony is not just the “formal bit before the party and the free booze”. It’s the reason everyone is there in the first place.

It’s the only part of the day where everyone you love is in one place, actually listening to your story, and watching you make promises to each other. I’ve lost count of how many times couples have said afterwards that it went so fast they barely remember it. Which is exactly why slowing it down a little matters more than people realise.
Even just taking a breath. Looking at each other. Not rushing through it.

Those moments land more than anything else.

Your guests are on your side

This one is easy to forget when you’re deep in planning mode.
Your guests aren’t judging the flowers, or the timing, or whether everything is perfectly aligned. They’re just happy to be there.

I’ve seen grandparents cry before I’ve even started speaking, and I’ve seen mates already planning the dance floor before the ceremony has finished.

People are there for you!

It doesn’t need to be perfect to be good

Some of the weddings people remember most clearly are the ones where something unexpected happened. A bit of wind that turned into laughter. A child who decided to contribute mid-ceremony. A speech that went off-script and somehow made it better!

Those moments don’t take away from the day. They usually become the bits everyone talks about later.

Be where you are

Easier said than done, especially when you’ve spent so long planning everything. But the ceremony is probably the one part of the day where it really matters to slow down for a second.
Look at each other properly. Listen to the words. Take it in instead of rushing past it.

It only happens once (hopefully…!)

And the thing I notice most

The weddings that stay with me aren’t the ones that are flawless or overly produced - they’re the ones that feel like the couple.
Relaxed. A bit emotional. A bit funny. Sometimes slightly crazy in the best way!

Just real.

I’m always happy to meet for a coffee (or a wine) and have a chat to see if I’m your kind of celebrant!

Image: Lavender Turner Photography
https://lavenderphoto.co.nz/
Location: Mona Vale, Christchurch

What Does a Marriage Celebrant Do in New Zealand?

If you’re planning a wedding in New Zealand, you’ve probably come across the term marriage celebrant - but you might not be totally sure what we actually do.
Most people only book a celebrant once (hopefully!), and unless you’ve been involved in planning a wedding before, it’s not exactly obvious.

People often imagine we turn up with a microphone, say a few nice things, get you to sign something and disappear into the distance.

There’s a bit more to it than that!

As a Christchurch marriage celebrant, here’s a simple breakdown:

First things first - The legal part

Before we get into all the nice sentimental stuff, there’s the legal side. First and foremost, a marriage celebrant is the person who makes your marriage legally valid in New Zealand.
We are authorised to:

• conduct your wedding ceremony

• complete your legal paperwork

• ensure your marriage is officially registered with Births, Deaths & Marriages

Without a celebrant, you can’t legally get married here.

Then there’s the ceremony itself

This is where things become personal, and the part I love.
Because the ceremony isn’t just standing at the front and reading words off a page. It’s usually the only time all your favourite people are together in one place, listening to your story and watching you make promises to each other.

Your ceremony isn’t just a template when I swap in your names. A big part of my role is helping create something that feels like you, as no two couples want exactly the same thing.

• Some people want something short and simple..

• Some want all the emotion.

• Some want personal vows.

• Some want to involve family, children or their dog (I’m very supportive of dogs at weddings!)

• And some sit down with me and say, “We have absolutely no idea what happens at a wedding ceremony”

All are completely normal , and no two ceremonies are the same, which is what makes it so special!

A lot of my job happens before the wedding

This surprises people! By the time I’m standing at the front on your wedding day, quite a bit has already happened behind the scenes (like 90%!)

We’ve talked about your plans, worked through ceremony ideas, sorted legal requirements, chatted about vows, and worked out how everything is going to flow.

I also run everything through My Celebrant App, which I absolutely love because it keeps everything in one place.

Instead of endless email chains and trying to remember where you wrote something down, you’ve got your details, ceremony planning, timelines, a to-do list (which people weirdly love), and a chat function so things stay simple and organised.

I’m all for making wedding planning feel less overwhelming and more manageable.

And then the wedding day arrives

By the time the ceremony comes around, my hope is that it doesn’t feel like standing in front of a stranger. This is where I become part celebrant, part friend, part guide, part timekeeper and occasionally gentle crowd control.

I’ll lead the ceremony, guide everyone through where they need to stand and what happens next, make sure the legal bits happen, and keep things moving.

But mostly, I’m there so you don’t have to think.

You don’t need to remember what comes next.
You don’t need to worry whether you’re doing it right.
You don’t need to print your vows.

You just need to turn up and get married!

Why it matters?

A good celebrant isn’t there to perform, and not just there for the legal part. We’re there to create a ceremony that feels natural, relaxed and like you.

Because years later, nobody remembers whether the paperwork was done correctly (thank goodness it is).
They remember how it felt standing there.

Final thoughts

If you’re planning a wedding in New Zealand, your celebrant plays a much bigger role than most people realise.
My job is to make sure your ceremony feels relaxed, personal, and completely true to who you are - while taking care of all the legal bits quietly in the background.

If you’ve got questions about how it all works, I’m always happy to chat!

Image: Meg Stuthridge Photography
https://megelizabethstudio.com/
Location: Double Hill Station, Canterbury

How to Get Married in Christchurch NZ | Marriage Celebrant Guide

If you’re planning to get married in Christchurch, one of the first things you’ll realise is that there are a few legal steps to tick off before the big day - nothing overly complicated (I promise!)
As a Christchurch marriage celebrant, I walk couples through this process all the time, so here’s a simple breakdown of how it all works.

1. Choose your celebrant

First things first - you’ll need a registered marriage celebrant to legally marry you in New Zealand.

This is the person who:

• conducts your ceremony

• completes your legal paperwork

• lodges your marriage with Births, Deaths and Marriages

You can choose someone who feels like the right fit for your day, personality-wise and style-wise. This is important - your celebrant sets the tone for your ceremony.

2. Apply for your marriage licence

Once you’ve got your celebrant sorted, you’ll apply for your NZ Marriage Licence.
This is done through the Department of Internal Affairs and can be completed online. You’ll need:

• your ID (passport or birth certificate)

• details of your ceremony

• your celebrant’s details

It’s valid for 3 months, so timing matters - you don’t want it sitting around too long before your wedding day.

3. Your ceremony details

You’ll confirm:

• where your ceremony will take place

• the date and time

• your two witnesses (these can be friends, family or someone completely random!)

Your celebrant will help guide you through what’s needed so nothing gets missed.

4. The legal wording (this surprises people!)

In New Zealand, the legal part of your ceremony is actually very short.
You only need to say a legal declaration using each other’s full names - the rest of your ceremony (your vows, readings, personal story) is completely up to you.

This is why ceremonies here can feel so personal and relaxed compared to what people often expect.

5. The ceremony itself

On the day, your celebrant will:

• lead your ceremony

• guide you through the legal declaration

• manage the flow of everything (so you don’t have to think about it)

• make sure your paperwork is signed correctly afterwards

Most importantly, the goal is for you to feel present and relaxed - not worried about what comes next.

6. After the ceremony

Once you’re officially married, your celebrant sends your paperwork to Births, Deaths and Marriages, and your marriage is legally registered.
Then you’re done - and you can focus on the important part: celebrating.

Final thoughts

Getting married in Christchurch is actually a really simple process once you understand the steps. Most couples are surprised by how easy the legal side is - the real focus becomes creating a ceremony that feels personal, relaxed, and true to you.

If you’re planning your wedding and want help creating a ceremony that feels like you, I’m always happy to chat it through over a coffee (or wine!)

Image: Claudia Pyke Photography
https://www.claudiapykephoto.com/
Location: Hagley Park, Christchurch